DEAR MARRIED WOMAN...

Dear Married Woman 

How are you doing? How has it been since you said I do? Has your faith in the blessing of marriage increased or decreased since you said I do?  And if I may ask do you still believe in great possibilities for the future with the man you have by your side? Your answers may be a bit checkered right now but you just take a moment to read what is down here, and you may have some clues to lead you through a good reflection.

                                                                                                You were seduced          

As a married woman you must have heard of the ‘cleaving and becoming one flesh” pronouncement of God. It even may have intrigued you at first and then it settled in with you. The fact that another had decided to leave his former life behind and cleave to you to establish his commitment with you is a huge thing and the idea is flattering, we are almost seduced by this in itself. “Will you be mine?” “Will you be the one?”Well, this is not just something you just receive but to which you also owe great allegiance and which you will try to honor with your life. Even with time, you may have realized that receiving your mate and loving him as he is has become a daily choice and it is through this daily and even seasonal choice that the process of oneness is established or made possible.  But beyond your spouse, dear married woman, have you or were you seduced by the promise of God that “I will never leave you or forsake you?” Well if you were not, I hope you GRADUALLY will, because if it is by seduction that we are won into another’s web of promise it is by this promise in Hebrews 13:5 that you can rest on all of God’s promises. Through believing this one promise, you can be rest assured that no matter where you are at right now in terms of man’s promise to cleave to you, God’s promise surpasses it still. If you feel forsaken, know that it is with man that this feeling may be true and valid, with the Lord, this can never be true. Dear married woman, do not just fight for the promise your husband made to you in order for it to hold, settle in with the Lord’s promise to you too. With this anchor, all other promises can come to pass. Be seduced again not just by the possibility of a happy marriage but by the possibility of a happy exchange between you and your God.

                                                                                You were taught to nurture LOVE

Before leaving for your matrimonial home, I am sure many elderly members of your family reminded you to nurture your love for your husband and to let that love grow more and more. They taught you to serve him and even be submissive to him, as you both give each other a godly preferential treatment. Dear married woman, where are you at with that? For some of us, it may be a huge struggle right now. For others it may be like, “I’m trying”, with teeth clenched, but others may be sailing through this pretty well. Well, generally humans are not always easy to love at all times in all ways, (that is if you have not forgotten that your spouse is human) , well a reminder, he is, and so are you. But one amazing truth is, if you nurture your love for your "first husband" on a daily basis, your love for your other husband will not be so much of a task. Now do not ask who your first husband is, I hope you have not forgotten so soon. Christ is your first love! The one who first loved you, is still engaged to you right now because He takes his engagement more seriously than anyone ever could. He is the one you cried to when you were single, the one you prayed to when you were lonely and in a fix as to what lay ahead of you. He is the one you spoke to in the prayer meeting when your heart was bleeding with worry, He is the one who consoled you always through every trouble. Dear married woman, are you nurturing the love for the one who kept you through your single Life?  Was He not the one who stayed with you through the time of ridicule and brought you to the point of peace? After many broken hearts and inner turmoil or personal struggles, He brought you to the place where you could smile again, love again and live again.  And when you met your husband you may have asked the Lord “Is he the one?. Dear married woman, by now the answer to the question obviously is “Christ is the one”. He remains our everlasting hope, takes us through, He orders our steps right and gives us rest from all our troubles. He is right at all times, in all things. So I hope you have not forgotten the first groom who groomed you to be the woman you are today? He watched upon your mistakes with pity and did not judge even one of your faults. I hope you are still in love with Him today.

You waved goodbye to many, but not to the Lord!

Dear married woman, when you hopped from one to the other in search of appreciation, it was the Lord who stood by you and gave you the wisdom and the Grace to go through the preparation, in order to be in a better place, a sober place of heavenly restoration. That process of restoration is still ongoing and it does not have to end so married woman, do not forget your love for the Lord, now that you are in the marriage wagon. You waved goodbye to many but it was not to the Lord, it was not to your Faith, so do not wave goodbye as the marriage carriage moves on. And do not think of the Lord with so much hesitation and uncertainty. No matter where you are at right now, break forth in proper love and appreciation for the very first one who wiped all your mess and helped you to see your strengths even through the toughest times of life. He will hop in your marriage wagon too, right now, if you keep inviting Him to.

For He himself has said i will never leave you nor forsake you !

                                                 (Heb13:5b)

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